In the ever-blurring space between public and private life, many of us find ourselves wondering: How much is too much to share? What is sacred enough to protect? In a world that encourages constant expression and performance, the challenge of authentic yet discerning living grows more complex by the day.
This week, I’ve been thinking about the ways we tell our stories—what we offer the world, what we withhold, and how those choices shape us. Whether we’re posting on social media, speaking in front of a congregation, or simply sharing over coffee with a friend, we are constantly curating the story of who we are. And curation, when done intentionally, is an act of spiritual discernment.
In my reflection, I found it helpful to consider three postures we might take as we navigate this terrain:
- The Masked Curator presents a carefully polished version of themselves, hiding vulnerability behind a fear that if people saw their true self, they might no longer be accepted. The mask provides safety—but at a cost.
- The Unfiltered Revelator shares everything, sometimes indiscriminately, pouring sacred stories into spaces that may not be ready or worthy to hold them. It may come from a yearning for connection, but without boundaries, it can become an exposure that wounds more than it heals.
- The Integrated Revealer practices thoughtful discernment, seeking connection while respecting inner boundaries. This way of being doesn’t equate hiding with safety or authenticity with overexposure. Instead, it is rooted in care—care for self, for others, and for the sacredness of story.
So how do we cultivate the posture of an integrated revealer in our daily lives? How do we engage in the sacred act of sharing ourselves with both honesty and care?
I offer five questions for reflection:
- What am I offering the world—and what am I protecting?Not all things must be shared to be real. Some things are holy simply by being held close.
- Am I performing or connecting?Are you seeking approval or communion? Performance seeks applause; connection seeks understanding.
- Where do I need more boundaries? Where do I need more courage?Sometimes, we hide when we’re called to step forward. Other times, we overextend and need to draw back.
- Who helps me hold sacred space for myself?Identify those who can hold your stories with tenderness and trust. Not everyone deserves access to your inner sanctuary.
- What practices help me listen inwardly before I speak outwardly?Journaling, meditation, prayer—these are sacred tools that help us discern before we declare.
You are not required to expose everything to be real. You are not required to hide your light to feel safe. As I shared in the episode, how you curate your life is a reflection of how you love yourself and the world you are part of.
Let your story be shaped with care. Let your light shine with discernment. Let your life be curated with intention—not to impress, but to connect, to serve, and to heal.
Because remember: you are infinitely precious and unconditionally loved for the gift you already are.
Infinitely Precious 