Calendaring Mistakes and Learning (again)

Occasionally, I find myself believing that my life is flowing effortlessly, as if I have everything “under control.” In these moments, the Universe often sends me a subtle or not-so-subtle reminder: the only thing I truly control is how I respond to each moment as it arises. Believing I can control anything beyond that is merely a figment of my imagination. Yet, this illusion is a game my ego often plays without my conscious awareness.

Today, I received one of these gentle nudges. I missed an event I was supposed to attend. After realizing my absence, I scoured my email and found a PDF I had overlooked months ago. There I was, somewhere entirely different from where I had promised to be. All I could do was offer an apology.

Such oversights are rare in my meticulously planned schedule. Like many, I rely on my calendar, naively assuming that scheduling an event guarantees my attendance. If it’s not on my calendar, it simply doesn’t “happen.”

This missed commitment has prompted some self-reflection, especially considering my recent post about the importance of meaning “Yes” when I say it. In this instance, my “Yes” inadvertently turned into a “No.” Embracing each moment as a learning opportunity, here are the insights I’ve gathered:

• Embrace the true meaning of “Yes.” If it’s really a “No,” say so.
• Pay attention to the details, including email attachments.
• Accept that everyone makes mistakes. They don’t define us or me. Apologize, then move on. Lingering in self-protection mode isn’t beneficial.
• Listen intently to the present moment and respond thoughtfully.
• Free yourself from others’ expectations. They do not define you any more than your mistakes do.
• Be grateful for every learning opportunity.

I am grateful for this moment of introspection. I regret not honoring my commitments but am thankful to be alive and have the chance to make more mindful promises in the future.

Some Questions to Ponder

• How does our perception of control influence our daily life and decision-making?
• What can missed commitments and unexpected life events teach us about flexibility and adaptability?
• In what ways can acknowledging and embracing our mistakes lead to personal growth and improved mindfulness?